There is that feeling when you find your marriage not working anymore and somehow you feel helpless. At times, its horrible. When you look back, you realize how much you have done with your partner. But see what? Its possible to rebuild a broken marriage. Never throw hands and say enough is enough. This is what you do:
Consider changing yourself not your partner.
When marriage experience challenges that tend to break it, you tend to point fingers to your spouse. But that should not be the case. Instead, consider reflecting on yourself. Yes, we are not perfect as humans but when you look at yourself, what has changed in you?
Do you think you may have a contribution on breaking your marriage? Self-reflection gives you that opportunity to know yourself better. Friends may have influenced you to be someone else or behave in a particular way without knowing.
Strive to meet all emotional needs of your spouse.
Spouses overlook the importance of emotional needs citing boredom or something else for it. Satisfaction in emotional needs was the core reason why you fell in love with your spouse. Anything that breaks it, puts your marriage at risk. Affection, sexual fulfilment, conversation, recreational companionship, and physical attractiveness are some of the key emotional needs that couples need to strengthen their relationship.
Build trust that’s anchored on friendship.
To rebuild broken marriage, you need to take your partner as a friend. Not as a transactional person who is there to accomplish something for you. If friendship becomes pillar in your relationship, there would be a lot to accomplish in your marriage.
Eliminate three A’s that ruin marriages-Addiction, Excessive anger, and affairs.
A marriage that is anchored on the three A’s develops problems at some point. This is according to Susan Heitler Ph.D. Your marriage should be build on love and trust and nothing more. When you love your partner, do so for whom he or she is.
The thing here is that when you love your partner for anything other than trust and love, that thing depletes along the way and that’s when your marriage breaks.
Share quality time together.
Sometimes, we tend to focus much time on our careers more than family and with partner. Despite the nature of your work, create time to spend with your spouse. A family that spends little to no time together gives room for marriage drifting.
Although your partner may understand your work, it fades away with time and you may realize too late that your marriage broke.
Seek for forgiveness and forgive.
No human is perfect. We go wrong in many ways. Sometimes we hurt one another deeply to the extent that it becomes difficult to forgive. But see what? By not forgiving causes more harm than forgiving. Its better to acknowledge the harm caused and forgive one another.
Once you get out of it, avoid situations that drags back. Encourage one another to change character that isn’t desirable. Most importantly in this is to ensure you communicate with your partner and speak out your heart.
Get in touch with people who are in healthy marriages.
There is a popular saying that goes show me your friend and I will tell you who you are. Its true in every aspect of life. When you hang around with people who have healthy marriages even if yours is sour changes situations. That environment alone is an ingredient to build a broken marriage. By getting advice from people who stay in healthy marriage gives you a new perspective and changes your attitude.
Essentially, for you to rebuild broken marriage, you should make some steps. It may not happen overnight, but consistently put effort towards restoration and indeed, it shall happen. Seek forgiveness, get in touch with people in healthy relationship, share quality time, trust one another, and build your marriage with trust.
